Tuesday, July 25, 2023

“Timmy: A Boy, An Era, A Family’s Desperate Journey”

“Timmy: A Boy, An Era, A Family’s Desperate Journey”
“As for Mike and me,” T.B. O’Neill writes of himself and his brother as 1960 approached, “we thought we landed in paradise. The town accepted us and we accepted Chico as our home.” Just thirteen, Tim and older brother Mike had endured abject poverty, family dysfunction, and more moves than a U-Hall rental.

The story of the 1950s is told in “Timmy: A Boy, An Era, A Family’s Desperate Journey” ($16 in paperback, independently published; also for Amazon Kindle). Intended for his own children, the book has wider resonance as O’Neill (tboneill.com) chronicles the loneliness of one who doesn’t fit in. Timmy is reckless, a failure academically, frequently ill.

“I’ll tell you our story as I remember it,” he says in the preface. “Rather than speaking in my own voice, I chose to look upon my childhood as a better angel might––calling up a third-person narrator to chronicle the foibles of our family as we stumbled through the 1950s.”

And stumble they did. “’Timmy’ does not end in victory.” 

The memoir begins in 1950 on the outskirts of Newark, California with parents Carl (“Curly”) and Naomi and life in a two-room house (no indoor plumbing) accommodating the four of them. Carl is an alcoholic and physically abusive, hitting Naomi when he can no longer handle her sharp tongue. 

As Carl’s drinking worsens, the family moves again and again and again, trying to escape themselves and find suitable work. Naomi leaves with the kids over and over, yet always returns to Carl (until a man calling himself “Ed” enters her life). The story is heartbreaking, not least in how Tim is affected.

“When he was younger,” the narrator says, “he yearned for kind words or a touch from his parents. But he came to notice that it was time itself that cured his longing. He gradually acquired the ability to detach, to expect much less from others, to ignore rejection from those who found him inconsequential. He would place his faith instead upon the man he would become, a man who needed no one.”

Will Chico change that trajectory? The sequel, “Dangle Him Purposely,” may have the answer.